My dad is incontinent. How do I convince him he needs to wear depends full time and not just when he leaves the house?

My husband has been having accidents and he's walking around with big wet spots on his pants. When I mention this, he will say that it's water or something he spilled on himself! I did buy some pullups and put them in his drawer but so far he hasn't got the 'hint'..what else can I do besides insisting that he wear them!!

The big questions are 1. does he go to the bathroom while at home with no problem or does he have occasional episodes where he does not make it? A lot of times seniors want to hang on to independence and can be in denial they have an issue. It is a difficult task to convince seniors they need to address these things especially if your the child and participating in the care, because you are family their may be an expectation from dad you accept his way. It can go either way though really. When you say "convince dad" I take you mean dad is probably just being some what stubborn ? Not really knowing your dad personally I think just letting him know that it is difficult on you to have to tend to accidents all the time and for you helping him out with his needs or assistance it would be easier for both of you if he would wear them all the time if this is what he needs. Secondly it would be more dignifying for him if he would. It has to be a benefit to him as well meaning let him know your looking after his dignity as well as the other things such as cutting back on laundry for example - the more accidents the more laundry and pull ups as they are referred to would cut back off laundry, plus encourage him to know that they are just like underwear. The one thing that can be offensive to our seniors is using the word "diaper" it can make one feel just like a kid and of course they are not. Some times it just takes patients to encourage the right thing. You know your dad and how he is about things which is a Hugh plus so you have to work with him based on you know how to reason with him. The other thing is does dad have any dementia related issues that can impair his ability to understand and reason the matter. This can be a factor as well. I of course do not know if dad does or does not, but you do and some times these things can make it a bit more difficult at first. I have dealt a lot with patients or people if you will alert and with dementia conditions and both ways can be difficult to get some one to understand what is best. I think if you can use some tactics that would make him feel dignified and to his benefit about this matter you may be able to sway him in to wearing them all the time. I hope I did not go over board with this but I wanted to give some clear insight on things that can work and what not to do or say. please feel free to tell me more about dad and I will see if I can offer more suggestions that may help you resolve getting dad to wear them. Thanks