More and more these days my bedbound MIL is always awake. She stares a lot but never seems to sleep. Her bed is in my living room/kitchen area and if I enter or leave the room, she starts talking a bit - well sundown-like behavior.
She used to take Seroquel for combativeness and it worked for a while but then the results reversed on us. So no drugs now for over a month. She is still able to talk - but fewer words.
I feel bad that she is laying there staring at nothing. I try to interact with her and play music and tv and we have therapists come 3 days/wk with hospice.
But, she NEVER seems to sleep.
Is that okay?
Sometimes she is very restless and nothing seems to satisfy her.
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Take good care.
I feel so frustrated in my circumstance, just as I know you feel with your mother in law.
What has hospice care said or her doctor about giving her anything to sleep, I cannot imagine laying there awake all the time and not being able to communicate is the way it should be.
Maria I do not know your MIL full condition but if she were my mother I think I would ask for Morphine for her.. When my father was dying and went into the hospital for the last time, he asked his doctor for "a shot to put him to sleep" he was put on Morphine and passed away several days later as he slept.
You may not agree with this and that is okay, we each have to live with our choices.
God Bless you all on this journey!
I also am a strong believer in homeopathic and TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) remedies--being used for 2000 years, and the opposite, the most recent neurological research. I don't know if it's been discussed before, but I use, and it's pretty successful for mom, subliminal cd's that help move the brainwave patterns into delta waves--deep sleep. Quite a few on the internet, or even in e.g., Barnes & Noble in alternative music sections. Hope these can help.
But if that drug doesn't work, ask her doctor to keep trying. Surely hospice can help. Are they convinced she's as comfortable as possible for her last days?
And does anyone respond when she speaks? Perhaps verbal communication is garbled, but the language of the heart remains the same. Sometimes Mom makes no sense at all, but hugs and kisses always work in reply.
Good luck and God bless.