My aunt has early Alzheimer's. One person who is the second POA has taken it upon herself to control medical AND finances. The FIRST listed POA is just standing back and letting it happen. They are throwing gossip at each other and fighting over who is in charge, fighting over who drained my aunt's bank accounts. Whether or not my aunt is really competent or not. It's a mess. I don't know who to tell that this is going on. Or should I? I'm worried my aunt is being treated unfairly and bullied.
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Good luck with this.
Carol
Do you know which attorney drew up the POA documents? If so, you could contact that person. He or she would likely not be able to speak with you about the matter but could listen to your concerns and follow-up about them.
Speaking with an Elder Law attorney could be a good step. It sounds like all of the facts are not known so perhaps caution is appropriate as you address this issue.
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I'm sorry your aunt is going through this and you are an unwilling spectator. For the rest of us it is a cautionary tale and a situation to avoid.
If your aunt has sufficient competency she can revoke the POA that is causing the conflict. However, a POA is sort of like an embarrassing photograph, even if the original is destroyed copies that cause trouble may still be around. Your state may have an Adult Protective Services unit that can be consulted if financial abuse is suspected.
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