I am trying to make more sense of my dad's expenses the past seven months. It seems A LOT of money has been going to in - home companions who stay 2 or 3 hours, and charge at least $100 regardless. I spoke to one of these ladies (who actually has references, and has been reliable - several have not) over the weekend. She says she will stay for "up to 4 hours" at that price, but even if it is only half an hour, it is still $100 - because: a) she has to drive out here, and b) she passes up other work to do so. The reason I'm asking is that dad has been having companions in sometimes twice - or three times! - a week. That alone blows his budget to bits. I've already asked the neighbors if I could pay them, but they're elderly as well ( 60's-70's) and are afraid to be responsible for looking after dad. Senior services is a non-starter also, due to their policies. Any thoughts would be welcome. Everything I try, I run into a wall, it seems!
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Of course, people should know the employment laws and possible liability issues, but imo not threatened outright.
I have read GardenArtist, Cwillie, Igloo and others whom I consider experts with advice, never making threats.
As a non-expert, I have observed how a community gets by and many hire the same individuals (on a sub-contractor type basis) for housekeeping (via references), handy services, yard maintenance, etc. Some work for $10/ hr., and others name their own price. Once the person is on the premises, others hire them.
My advice is to rename the job title. Hire a reasonable cook and housekeeper for $100 all day, or $60 for 6 hours, staying for that time paid. Why would anyone get paid if they went home?
At least someone will be there...
I had three roofers refuse to work here before the fourth finally accepted the job. Honestly, I wouldn't have moved here if I knew I'd have dad out here. My brother was given a large amount of money to start his business by the parents, on the condition he looked after my parents in their old age. Of course, as soon as he got the money it was adios! I ended up with dad, and for a while, mom, too.
You could get volunteers from a Senior organization or your Church and they often do that for free.
There is NO way they should be getting what they have been charging you.
The longer I try to help him, the worse things end up looking...
He's barely paying his bills now, this opens a whole new can of worms.
I appreciate the info, though. Better to know than not know.
I pay them each $10 per hour.
They were told that they were mainly a companion but would be dispensing her pills (already sorted) and making sure she had breakfast and lunch.
Of course, Mom is boring so they have taken up laundry sometimes light housework, toileting, bathing, taking Mom to doctor, grocery shopping and ordering supplied from Amazon - just to have something to do.
The 4 day a week has become family and we take her on our many Disney World vacations. For those, she gets paid $100 per day plus all food, drink and park tickets. She shares a room with Mom and is with her 24/7
I know, I am truly blessed.
I had used an Agency for my Dad and I was charged around $30/hour, but they were making him all his meals, doing light housework, laundry, taking Dad for walks, to doctor appointments, etc. Since they were from a licensed Agency, the Agency was already covering their employees with workman's comp.
The best rate I've found around here is $100/visit up to 4 hours. We are about 10 miles from town, but half of that is unimproved roads - I moved to the woods before I knew I was going to end up with Dad. He lives in his own building on my property, so usually I can look after him.
The only nearby neighbors are elderly, I've had cheaper offers from people on Craigslist, the grocery store bulletin board, etc. but not much. And these people have no references, so I am afraid to leave dad with them.
He was turned down for Medicaid earlier this year, but he has spent A LOT of money since then staying afloat. I don't know if he will agree to reapply, he was very upset they did not seem very helpful last time.