My paralyzed granny who I take care of abuses me. Can I do anything to make the abuse stop?

Hi everyone my granny is 75 and she had a stroke in the beginning of the year. She could not walk or use her right hand. We placed her in a carehome we could afford. It was not themost luxurious care home, but we thought that she would be taken care of. After about a week she told me and my mom that she is getting abused in the care home. She said that the carers are taking her prescribed medicines and swapping them with medicines she is not familiar with, stealing her personal items, giving her spoilt food (which resulted in diarrhea everyday), leaving her in messy diaper, not doing physio, and giving other patients unprescribed pills to make them quiet. This alarmed my mom and I and we reported this carehome to the police. My granny stated that she wanted to live with us. We could not afford another care home, so my granny came to stay with us.

I have cooked 3 times a day for my granny, helped bath, and change diapers. everyday I also massage my grannies legs, and entire body for over an hour as she says that she is in pain. I have done all of this while studying full time for my masters degree.

When we go grocery shopping we try to sanitize often, and observe the social distancing regulations put into place due to COVID-19. Whenever we go out of the house my brother assists with my granny. My granny gets angry at us for going grocery shopping. She says that we are going out. Her doctor advised us to not take her out at this stage of the lockdown, but she says that other elderly people are going to the shops so she should too. She calls my mother and I b****** when we leave and she says that she hopes we crash the car and die. She says we are keeping her in jail.

I have tried my best to do all I can for my granny and to make her happy. We have a big yard and space outside. I try to encourage her to go outside or try to garden, but she is on facebook all day sleeping on the bed. She calls me a b**** and she says that I am a loser. She says that my degrees are stupid because I am not married. I am the only one in my family to go to university and get this far. I have always passed cum laude. I am not ugly, I have a good heart, I have friends, some people like me more than a friend, but I do not want a relationship. I try to explain to her that I am trying to work on my career and better my life and get myself out of poverty. I have tried to stay out of her hair to try and make things better. I try to assist her and then stay away. I work on my thesis outside and do my research outside. I eat my food outside. When I'm not researching I clean outside. I spend everyday outside from the morning till around 7pm, but when I come back inside she still talks to me negatively.

She also threatens to call my university and "tell them how I am" when I say that she is being abusive towards me, and I don't like it. she shouts and says "then why do you help me!". She goes outside with her wheelchair and shouts at me so the neighbours can hear. She says "I'll call the cops on you" "I'll take you to court, you're abusing me".

All of her family members and her other children have abandoned her at this stage. The rest of the family seems to have lost respect for her due to her abusive nature and vanity. My granny catfishes men aged 26, 27 (my age and younger) on facebook with her younger photos. She lies about her age, and her condition. We have asked her why shes doing this. She says she wants someone young to look after her. She gives out our address to these men online. We explained that this is not right, but she disregards us. The convos with these men are sexually explicit and one guy told me over FB he masturbates to my gran. I am slowly giving up.

I am physically and mentally drained. I feel suicidal. I don't want to be alive anymore. How do I get my granny to stop abusing me and lying online?