More information would be helpful: what state is she in? Was granddaughter assigned Power of Attorney or guardianship? Do you live locally to your grandmother?
Please understand that if the granddaughter discovered that grandmother was having problems living by herself there may not have been many options for her future care and protection. Especially if she didn't have much money. Family hounding her about the decision may have caused her to cut off communications for the time being, or she's so busy dealing with all the details of transitioning your grandmother that she has to pick her battles with unsupportive family, especially if she has her own job and family to manage.
Also please know that no once can be forced to stay in a nursing home against their will if they have been placed there by their PoA or guardian because they have a medical diagnosis of dementia/memory impairment and are a danger to themselves if left alone. In-home hands-on caregiving of your grandmother by another family member should never be assumed. The granddaughter probably couldn't provide enough of the care that she needed.
Maybe this isn't at all what's happened but we on the forum can't give you useful suggestions without a lot more facts and details from you.
If you are talking about a Power of Attorney (POA), it depends on how it is written. Immediate means as soon as the the principle (would be grandma) signs the document. Springing means the principle has to have a doctor declare them incompetent to handle their affairs.
To place someone in a Nursing Home (NH) the person needs to fit certain criteria. One being they need 24/7 care and there is no one willing to give it. Does grandmom have a Dementia?
No, a POA does not give the person the right to cut off family. If a family member upsets the principle or makes a ruckess when visiting, then yes the POA can cut them off. Its in the best interest of the principle. If grandmom is saying she wants to see family the POA does not have the right to say otherwise. Being a POA is not a power trip. Its a tool to be used when a principle is no longer able to make informed decisions.
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Please understand that if the granddaughter discovered that grandmother was having problems living by herself there may not have been many options for her future care and protection. Especially if she didn't have much money. Family hounding her about the decision may have caused her to cut off communications for the time being, or she's so busy dealing with all the details of transitioning your grandmother that she has to pick her battles with unsupportive family, especially if she has her own job and family to manage.
Also please know that no once can be forced to stay in a nursing home against their will if they have been placed there by their PoA or guardian because they have a medical diagnosis of dementia/memory impairment and are a danger to themselves if left alone. In-home hands-on caregiving of your grandmother by another family member should never be assumed. The granddaughter probably couldn't provide enough of the care that she needed.
Maybe this isn't at all what's happened but we on the forum can't give you useful suggestions without a lot more facts and details from you.
To place someone in a Nursing Home (NH) the person needs to fit certain criteria. One being they need 24/7 care and there is no one willing to give it. Does grandmom have a Dementia?
No, a POA does not give the person the right to cut off family. If a family member upsets the principle or makes a ruckess when visiting, then yes the POA can cut them off. Its in the best interest of the principle. If grandmom is saying she wants to see family the POA does not have the right to say otherwise. Being a POA is not a power trip. Its a tool to be used when a principle is no longer able to make informed decisions.
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