Should I just tell mom (everyday because she can't remember) that we sold her house and she lives permanently with us?
I don't want to add to her depression, since she's been doing so well. She doesn't ask anymore how long are we staying here. But she does remember her house and calls my brother, who lives near, each day to ask how things are.
If you do tell her, make it upbeat. When my Dad asks, I remind him that we sold the house to a young family with little ones, and they are going to be able to enjoy the big yard and the swingset he put in when my kids and my sibling's kids were little! That idea — that the family that bought the house has little kids — really captures his imagination and makes him happy.
I wouldn’t tell her. Let the days go by for her in as much peace with the least upsets as possible. It would be cruel to relive the same bad news over and over
I would not tell her that her house sold. And if u feel you need to, just once. Telling them everyday when asks is cruel because they will never understand why. Dementia people don't see that they are old. They think they can still do for themselves. They are not aware of their weaknesses.
My Mom needed help with her ADLs. I dressed her everyday. Maybe she could have done it herself but I still would have probably had to hand each thing to her in the order you put it on. I had a monitor right outside my b/r door. I could hear Mom in her room in the middle of the night. I would go in to check on her, and she was fully dressed down to her socks and shoes. Dementia is a weird thing.
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My Mom needed help with her ADLs. I dressed her everyday. Maybe she could have done it herself but I still would have probably had to hand each thing to her in the order you put it on. I had a monitor right outside my b/r door. I could hear Mom in her room in the middle of the night. I would go in to check on her, and she was fully dressed down to her socks and shoes. Dementia is a weird thing.