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Bellasmami2013 Asked July 2023

Can my siblings audit my mothers income?

Not sure I’m using the correct language, bottom line my mom and I have a joint bank account. This account was made about 6 years before my mom got sick. Currently she’s sick and on hospice she cannot make decisions but now my siblings are trying to tell me I can’t redo a floor in my mom’s house using “her income” they do not know that we have had a joint account since long before and now are threatening to audit my mom’s income is how they worded it if I do decide to do the floors. Is this legal? Not only am I joint on her only bank account, but about 3 years ago she also made me her DPOA. I think it’s ridiculous they are worried about a floor when my mom is on her death bed no none of us get along and there Def is sibling rivalry I just don’t feel like being bullied by them.

Grandmaofeight Jul 2023
Why are you redoing her floors? Are you inheriting the house?

I am trying to stop my mom from spending money

JoAnn29 Jul 2023
No they personally can't audit Mom, you have POA. How is the joint acct set up? It depends on how its worded if it all goes to u when Mom passes. Has to do with the use of "and vs or". Are you beneficiary?

Who is Executor of Mom Will? Your POA stops at death. The Executor can ask for an accting of Moms money so I hope you kept good records. If your the Executor, the beneficaries can request an accting. Usually, with a Will an accting is done anyway.

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NeedHelpWithMom Jul 2023
Just read this and I have to say that I shook my head.

Your mother is on hospice. not able to make any decisions about anything at this time and you are asking us about floors?

Are the floors a top priority for you right now? Yeah, I think if I were one of your siblings I would wonder about what was going on too.

cwillie Jul 2023
As POA you do have a fiduciary duty to always manage her funds in a way she would have done herself and that is in her best interest, I can understand why your siblings may question upgrades that she will never benefit from. Since she's "on her deathbed" maybe you should just wait to do the floors.
And it sounds like you had better be prepared for the $hit to hit the fan when the estate is settled, they will definitely demand an accounting then.

BarbBrooklyn Jul 2023
Why are you wanting to redo the floors in mom's home?

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