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Hang in there Debray. I've been caring for family members all my adult life - I'm 68 now. Difference now is that I'm retired - no longer raising two sons alone and working full-time while trying to care for someone - Thank Goodness! Try to create some peace for yourself - say with meditation, painting, walking (I have to walk inside our home - because Dad can no longer be left alone), gardening - something you find interest in, crochet, puzzles - something. I wake up every morning and tell myself to make today a better day. Doesn't always turn out that way but I keep going. Meditation has helped me tremendously. No one is coming to save us - so we have to do it for ourselves and We/You can. Find a way to create some peace in your life, even if for 10 minutes a day while they sleep. My Best to You. Take care - You've got this keep going.
Debray , That’s a long time. I hope your ordeal ends soon for you and yiu are free to live your life unencumbered by caregiving. There is not much else to hope for when you are in this type of situation.
In the meantime do one nice thing each day — no matter how small it may seem —for yourself . It will help.
It continues until the one you're caring for dies, or until you decide that enough is enough and the person you're caring for hires either in-home help or gets placed in the appropriate facility. And since you've not provided any helpful information as to what exactly your situation is, we are limited in what we can respond.
I was a caregiver for my late husband for 24 1/2 years of our 26 year marriage, and the most important thing I learned in my journey was that I mattered too, and that it was important that I get out and do things that I enjoyed so I wouldn't lose myself and feel all alone. Finding a local caregiver support group was very helpful for me as well, as knowing that you're not alone in what you're going through is beyond helpful. So make sure that you're getting out and doing things you enjoy, lunch with friends, going to church, or just taking a walk around the neighborhood. You will feel much better once you start making yourself a priority too.
Right there with you, Debray. It's so isolating, even if you still go to work. Your constantly subsumed by "what's going on now", "what is the patient's mental and physical status today", "what supplies do I need", "what food will she eat (appetite and acceptable foods change daily)". At this point you have given up your life and some days it difficult to imagine how long you can hold on to your health and sanity. There's never a day off, there's never anyone else because the patient wants you always. You never get a chance to get away and your home has become your prison. I don't know if I can offer you anything positive other than this: know you are not alone, there ARE others in the same place as you. But keep visiting this site; others here will understand. Some days it's the only thing that gets me through. Hugs to you!
You are new to the Forum, D. And I welcome you. In many instances it doesn't continue, because it cannot. Everyone has a breaking point when limitations are ignored. I hope you will learn a lot on this Forum, and share a lot, and I hope you will find help here when you have a specific question we might assist you with.
Meanwhile, again I welcome you and hope you will read on in the threads. I think you will at the very least feel less alone and isolated in your caregiving.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Let us know more of your situation.
Who are you caring for a parent?
There age? And health issues?
Your age?
Does your loved one live with you?
All things that would be helpful, to help you figure this out.
I suspect you are at the end of your rope.
In the meantime do one nice thing each day — no matter how small it may seem —for yourself . It will help.
(((hug)))
And since you've not provided any helpful information as to what exactly your situation is, we are limited in what we can respond.
I was a caregiver for my late husband for 24 1/2 years of our 26 year marriage, and the most important thing I learned in my journey was that I mattered too, and that it was important that I get out and do things that I enjoyed so I wouldn't lose myself and feel all alone.
Finding a local caregiver support group was very helpful for me as well, as knowing that you're not alone in what you're going through is beyond helpful.
So make sure that you're getting out and doing things you enjoy, lunch with friends, going to church, or just taking a walk around the neighborhood. You will feel much better once you start making yourself a priority too.
In many instances it doesn't continue, because it cannot.
Everyone has a breaking point when limitations are ignored.
I hope you will learn a lot on this Forum, and share a lot, and I hope you will find help here when you have a specific question we might assist you with.
Meanwhile, again I welcome you and hope you will read on in the threads. I think you will at the very least feel less alone and isolated in your caregiving.