My sister who has medical power of attorney has decided to take our mother out of a nursing home. Take her home. My 20 yr old niece is going to sleep there at night, and my sister is going to stay there during the day. She admitted to paying her daughter to care for our mother. And thinks nothing is wrong with it and claims her daughter is responsible. I think it is stealing our mother's money to pay her daughter. My sister says she is "saving mom money" by doing this. I really need advice.
I see from the profile that your Mother has Alzheimer's/Dementia. There must have been a reason she was in a nursing home. Honestly, why would anyone take a person who needs such a higher level of care away from a professional facility.... unless there was something terribly wrong with the nursing home.
Eventually your Mom will need 3 shifts of care. Your sister's daughter will find herself being up all night and not getting any sleep if your Mom gets into the phase of wandering around the house. And your sister will be doing 2 shifts of care, unless you live close enough and are able to help her out.
Yes, your sister is saving money, but at who's expense?
If you think this is stealing, then you go there and do the work for a week straight. It might change your thinking. Nursing homes get $400 a day. Tell us what you think is fair pay.
I wonder how long this very young lady will be willing to give up her evening social life to sleep over with Gramma. Enjoy it while it lasts.
The only real issue is will Mom get adequate care in this situation. At the care center she had 3 shifts of people to look after her. Will two shifts be enough? Keep an eye on how well this works out, and if Mom is any happier in this situation than she was in the care center. That is a valid concern.